Finding Balance in My Life and My Blog

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Lately I’ve been struggling with something that I believe everyone struggles with at some point – finding balance. Some days I feel as though my life is pretty good. I have a great husband, my cat is awesome, and I love my job (which is writing for all you wonderful people!). My apartment is getting cleaner and I’m working on improving myself in many ways. Other days I feel as though everything is about to come crashing down. I worry about money and I stress about forgetting to do a load of laundry or whether people will like my next blog post.

Finding Balance in My Life and My Blog - Dealing with being overwhelmed and blog burnout.

There are days when I jump head first into a new project for Jersha & Dup and I only stop for food, bathroom breaks, and to talk to Phillip on lunch. Then there are other days where I can hardly bring myself to check my email, let alone respond to comments, write a new post, or post on social media. I’m not sure if it’s just blogger burnout or what but it’s very frustrating.

I’ve read articles on avoiding burnout and how to deal with stress but they just don’t seem to help much. They all tell you to get your mind off things by doing something fun or try meditation. That doesn’t really work for me and all it does is make me feel broken.

So yesterday, I sat down and really thought about what I’m doing and why I might be stressed out and overwhelmed. I realized that it’s likely because I’ve been trying to do too much. In the past month, I’ve completely redesigned the blog, started posting more on social media, restarted Konmari, started two online classes, and I’m working through the Dave Ramsey program trying to get out of debt. I’ve got a lot going on and trying to do too much is the reason why I’m having such a hard time finding balance in my life now.

So what am I going to do?

  1. I’m going to stop tweaking the design for Jersha & Dup – I think it looks pretty good already (what do you think?) and I think I’ve been obsessing over minute details that no one is really going to notice.
  2. I’m going to stop worrying so much about social media – very few of our readers comment on Facebook or Tweet me on Twitter so I’m not going to stress over whether my posts look perfect or whether I post at the “right time.” I’m also considering deleting my Facebook profile altogether because it seems like most of what I read on there is fake news and silly jokes that I’ve seen 17 times already.
  3. I’m going to spend time thinking about what makes ME happy – I’ve been working on Konmari on and off for over a year now and I think about whether stuff sparks joy but I haven’t stopped to think about whether activities and projects I’m working on actually make me happy.
  4. I’m going to focus on you, my dear readers – I’ve been blogging on and off for 4 years and have made many mistakes. I’ve gone long periods without posting. I’ve posted deals and freebie alerts hoping to draw in viewers. I’ve even “sold out” on posting things just to get something for free. I don’t want to be a deal and freebie blog (not that there’s anything wrong with that), I want it to be a blog that can help people as well as one that shares things about my life.

So what does that mean for the blog? Hopefully there won’t be a noticeable change but I will warn you that I am planning on deleting some old content. I know that every blogging expert in the world suggests that you never delete old posts but you know what? I don’t really care. I am not the same person I was when I started blogging and I want Jersha & Dup to reflect who I am and where Phillip and I are now. As the saying goes, the best is yet to come so I hope you stick around to see it.

How do YOU deal with feeling overwhelmed? Do you have problems finding a balance in life?

 


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6 Comments

  1. Jessica, you are a generous person – this is obvious from the long eMail you sent me in response to my own home-life crisis. You must keep in mind, though, that you have to rest and restore. You will have nothing for others, if you haven’t taken care of yourself. This isn’t selfish – it is a vital part of being able to be generous. (I’m somewhat guilty of the same thing, and have to work on it all the time.)

    Unplug from social media. Be on only during certain hours, if you decide to stay on. I’m finding it a huge time suck, with little reward. (I don’t do it for myself, but for my employer, and we’ve had to find a balance that gives us presence without taking a lot of time.)

    I recommend prioritizing. We often assume we know our priorities, but when we actually put pen to paper, it makes a difference. I’m always surprised how much time I spend on something that is way down on my list, and it makes it so clear that I have to work on that! Don’t forget to include what is most important to feed your soul. That is as important as your family and what you have to do to earn a living or work toward your career goals.

    Though I’m quite a bit older than you (57), I’m asking similar questions. My son has left home. I want my last decade or so of work to be fulfilling and fun. I want to make room for more time with my friends, and I want to enjoy the time I spend alone.

    So, good luck to us all, Jessica! Breathe. Listen to your heart.

    1. Thanks so much, Shay! I do need to take time for myself. I’m a give-give-give person most of the time and it is hard for me to stop and think about what I really want. Prioritizing seems like it would work for me. Thanks for the idea!

  2. Blogging can be such a tricky thing. It asks so much of us from writing to design to social media and everything else. As a blogger, it’s tough to take a break, and I feel like whenever I do, there’s still that nagging feeling that I should be doing something to build my blog up in that moment. So I totally get it! I happily gave up posting to Google+ last year because it was least favourite network, and I haven’t jumped on the Periscope train because I just don’t want another network to maintain. Definitely feel free to care about social media less and give up Facebook if that’s what you’re feeling. Good luck with beating the burn out!

    1. Thanks Robyn! Yeah, I haven’t even touched Periscope yet. I haven’t really jumped on the Instagram or Vine trains either. And don’t get me started on Google Plus, haha.

  3. I think you might have been acting like a new mommy with a first-born baby. You want to do everything “right” and be “perfect”. {You might have seen a commercial showing this, although I can’t remember what they were advertising.} Now, you’re on “Baby Number Two”, where you can relax, and as long as you blog about the important stuff, you don’t have to be as “perfect” as you once thought you needed to be.

    I’m not a Blogger, with a capital “B”, but I do have a blog. I am a little disappointed with myself that I didn’t complete a thread about cleaning out my stuff. That ended in about April 2015. Flash forward, and here we are in a new house we don’t know how to decorate and wish we had money to change a few things. So, I get it. The Ups and Downs and trying to get excited about something.

    I enjoy your blog. Let’s see where it goes. Enjoy the journey.

    1. That’s the perfect way to describe it! My blog is definitely my baby (my first one at that) and I am so afraid of making a mistake! I’m slowly learning to loosen up.

      Also, I would LOVE to read your blog! Even if it’s not finished, I would love to see what you have to say.

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