Why I Threw Away My Wedding Pictures

Why I Threw Away My Wedding Photos
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Why I Threw Away My Wedding Photos
Image Credit: Karl Mooney

Yesterday I did something crazy. I threw away my wedding pictures – most of them anyway. If you know Phillip and me very well, you probably know that our wedding day was a bit of a disaster. We missed out on saying our vows and the guests didn’t really have any fun. We were young and dumb so we ended up having a church wedding at a Southern Baptist church. This meant NO dancing or even music (except music approved by the pastor). This also meant no alcohol (we weren’t old enough for that anyway). Our photographer was an older lady who felt strongly about NOT letting us see each other before the wedding so we could only do pictures between the ceremony and the reception meaning our guests were stuck waiting for a long time. Add all of those together and you’ll see that our day really wasn’t that fun or special. The only good part of the whole day was that we were MARRIED!!!

Add in the fact that our wedding pictures turned out pretty bad and you can easily see that I don’t have many fond memories of our wedding day and neither does Phillip. He still gets upset talking about anything related to our wedding day and neither of us liked looking at the pictures. So when I decided to tackle some sentimental items on the Konmari checklist, I nearly threw out all of our wedding photos.

But my logic caught up with me and I decided to go through the pictures one by one to see if any sparked joy first. I took every picture out of the photo album and turned them upside down. If a photo sparked joy, I put it in a separate pile. Then I had Phillip do the same thing. In the end, we kept 16 photos and they truly do make us happy to see them. They paint a much more positive view of the day and they ease some of the resentment we have for that day. Phillip even said that looking at the wedding pictures we kept makes him feel that maybe one day he can look back on that day and not get upset and maybe even have fond memories. That’s a total win in my book!

wedding pictures we kept
These are the wedding pictures we decided to keep.

Do you have any “sentimental” items that you need to get rid of because they don’t make you happy? If so, what’s holding you back?


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9 Comments

  1. Young, dumb, and Baptist described us 14 years ago. Thanks for writing this. Hubs and I will go through ours together thanks to your inspiration. Any suggestions for the 20 4″ thick scrapbooks I have from before the hobby turned digital? Sigh.

    1. Haha, I think young, dumb, and Baptist should be on a t-shirt or something because it describes a ton of people I know or knew back in high school and college (myself included).

      As far as the scrapbooks go, you could consider digitizing them. That’s what I did. I digitized the pages and specific images I wanted to keep and tossed the rest. Sometimes I feel a bit guilty but overall, I feel FREE.

  2. I had a necklace that my late grandmother gave me when I was a teenager. It was real gold and real jewels. My sister got one too. We didn’t ask for it but she wanted us to have keepsake jewelry to pass on I’m guessing. Well, shortly after we got them my sister’s was stolen. For over ten years I was afraid to wear the necklace because every time I did my sister would tell me how much she was mad about her’s getting stolen. One day I started to wear it every day because it was beautiful. But then my sister came around telling me about her anger and sadness about hers being stolen.
    For me possesions don’t hold the same sentimental value as it does for other people and especially for my sister. The necklace wasn’t my grandma. The necklace held bad memories for me. My mom telling me to never lose it because my grandma had to make payments on her credit card to get it and my sister about hers getting stolen (I know I repeat this a lot lol! But that’s how it was every time I saw the necklace or heard about it. No good memories…just burden).
    Eventually I gave the necklace to my sister and told her much later how I couldn’t wear it or even look at it without feeling guilt because nobody else could just let me enjoy it. There are only a few times I wish I would have kept it so that my daughter could have had it but then I went on to have 2 more daughters so I’ll have to get them their own keepsake jewelry if they want it down the road.

    Also I did get rid of our horrible weddings pictures and kept only a few in a scrapbook type album.

    1. Oh that whole situation just sounds awful. Your grandmother’s heart was in the right place but little did she know how much of a burden her gift would be for you. I’m glad that you were able to lift the burden a bit by giving the necklace to your sister.

      As for your daughters, perhaps buy them a lovely piece of jewelry to wear on their wedding day? Go with them and pick out something that’s a perfect fit for them. And if one of your daughters doesn’t wear jewelry, you can always think of something else.

  3. My wedding was also not at all as expected, which was very frustrating considering that we had planned what we wanted (small, cheap, handmade weekend with close family and friends). I had to deal with a lot of bad stuff the days before the wedding, nothing went as expected, my (free) photographer shot the photos at 6400 ISO with an old camera so all the pictures are incredibly grainy… I guess you could call that a disaster too 😛 I have to say we had some fun though. I have been meaning to make the album for 3 years, but I never seem to be in the mood for that. Guess I will use only the pictures that really spark joy from that day. Thanks for the post, it was inspiring 🙂

  4. Weddings aren’t about weddings… They are about marriages (IMHO) and I think you have worked that out… Enjoy your great marriage!!!

  5. Have you two considered a do-over? Perhaps renewing your vows on a particular anniversary and throwing the kind of party you really want would ease some of the bad memories as well. Or, I guess in this case, actually stating your vows!

    1. We have definitely considered it but we both don’t want to do a big party. We have been thinking about a private vow renewal ceremony for just the two of us or maybe including very very close family only.

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