Yesterday I did something crazy. I threw away my wedding pictures – most of them anyway. If you know Phillip and me very well, you probably know that our wedding day was a bit of a disaster. We missed out on saying our vows and the guests didn’t really have any fun. We were young and dumb so we ended up having a church wedding at a Southern Baptist church. This meant NO dancing or even music (except music approved by the pastor). This also meant no alcohol (we weren’t old enough for that anyway). Our photographer was an older lady who felt strongly about NOT letting us see each other before the wedding so we could only do pictures between the ceremony and the reception meaning our guests were stuck waiting for a long time. Add all of those together and you’ll see that our day really wasn’t that fun or special. The only good part of the whole day was that we were MARRIED!!!
Add in the fact that our wedding pictures turned out pretty bad and you can easily see that I don’t have many fond memories of our wedding day and neither does Phillip. He still gets upset talking about anything related to our wedding day and neither of us liked looking at the pictures. So when I decided to tackle some sentimental items on the Konmari checklist, I nearly threw out all of our wedding photos.
But my logic caught up with me and I decided to go through the pictures one by one to see if any sparked joy first. I took every picture out of the photo album and turned them upside down. If a photo sparked joy, I put it in a separate pile. Then I had Phillip do the same thing. In the end, we kept 16 photos and they truly do make us happy to see them. They paint a much more positive view of the day and they ease some of the resentment we have for that day. Phillip even said that looking at the wedding pictures we kept makes him feel that maybe one day he can look back on that day and not get upset and maybe even have fond memories. That’s a total win in my book!