I previously mentioned that we were using the Konmari method to declutter our apartment. At first it seemed super easy. We breezed through our clothes, finished books in a few hours, and even tackled paper quickly. In fact, we completed all 3 major categories in one day! But when we reached Komono, the category that encompasses all of the miscellaneous items in our life, we started wavering a bit.
Komono covers everything that isn’t a book, paper, clothing, or sentimental. It covers office supplies, toys, cleaning supplies, cookware, food, home decor, and anything else you can think of. When we reached Komono, we felt strong and able. We felt like it was going to be so easy! Well, we were right and yet we were wrong as well.
Is It Possible to do Konmari Wrong?
It seemed to me as though we were breezing through the categories much too quickly. When we were halfway through office supplies, it hit me. We were doing Konmari wrong! We were no longer thinking about whether an item sparked joy. We were just getting rid of things that we didn’t use. It sounds like that’s not a problem but that means we were also keeping items that don’t really spark joy either.
Another thing we forgot was to thank the items that we were discarding for their service in our home. It’s hard to get into the mindset that we need to thank an item. Really, do items have feelings? No, I don’t think so but I think there’s something psychologically beneficial to saying goodbye and thank you to an item that you no longer need. I believe it helps you make a connection to the joyful things in your life that you are keeping. It’s worth a shot anyway.
Yet another thing we’re doing wrong is that we’re immensely lazy. Konmari states that you should pull out all of the items in a given category, hold each item in your hand and decide whether it sparks joy. Since we began working on the kitchen category, we’ve just been opening the cabinets and pulling out what we don’t like. It’s a very lazy way to do KM and I think it’s not the right way to do it either.
So now we have to decide whether we want to start over or if we want to pick back up where we are and make a conscious effort to stay true to Konmari. Maybe we need to listen to the audio book again.